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This website is a collection of what I have learned, and continue to learn, about resolving childhood trauma as an adult.
On my journey, I have found the following things to be true:
- To resolve childhood trauma, I don't need to be able to remember the trauma - or even remember my childhood.
I do remember that stuff, but I have met plenty of other people, who don't, and they are still able to resolve their unresolved trauma. - In the process of resolving childhood trauma, I also end up healing generational trauma - personal and collective trauma that has been passed down through generations in my genes, in my family and in my culture.
- Having support on this journey is essential. I can only do so much on my own.
I'm actually very self-reliant and can do quite a lot on my own, but self-reliance only goes so far. It has its limits.
Receiving guidance from a person with trauma integration experience has been very helpful and, at times, absolutely necessary.
My mentor had over 14 years of personal trauma healing experience, when we started working together, and had mentored others before me. - Those of us with addictions, physical health conditions, or mental health conditions may need an expert in that condition to provide additional support and guidance on our trauma healing journey.
What Is Trauma?
I have heard many definitions and explanations of what trauma is.
What it all boils down to is that trauma is a reaction - an emotional upset.
It is a response to a distressing event.
(It is not the distressing event, itself.)
If someone is wondering if they had any trauma in their childhoods, they can ask themselves,
"Did I ever feel upset about anything when I was growing up?
Did I ever experience a distressing event during my childhood?"
I put distressing events into 3 main categories
- Something bad happened that should not have
- Something good did not happen that should have
- Something bad happened that could be seen as a normal part of life
(like falling off a bicycle or getting stung by a bee)
So, we basically all have had trauma - it is just a matter of whether it was resolved or not.